Fly with the Phoenix

Don’t let the weight of waiting get you down
September 23, 2010, 2:40 am
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This weekend, a friend of mine and I wrestled for most of the day trying to install new blinds. Doesn’t sound like a big deal, but for a bit of background, my bedroom has been without blinds for about five weeks or so. Foolishly, I tossed the old ones after painting because they were so beat up, but didn’t think that it could be a little while before I could buy new. So installing a little bit of privacy was indeed a big deal for me. However, this little luxury would have to wait, which is something God knows isn’t a strong personality trait of mine.

After my little hissy fit when it became apparent that the blinds didn’t work–following the struggle to get the right measurements, install hardware and make several trips up and down stairs for the right tools–I was able to find the message behind this everyday madness, which is–to quote the Rolling Stones’ classic lyric–you can’t always get what you want.

My window treatment battle certainly is just, as my daughter used to say, life being life, and that can simply sometimes be aggravating. Sunday, it was the blinds. Two weeks ago, it was my car. Tomorrow, who knows? How do we handle these situations? You take a deep breath and do the best you can. This stuff usually works itself out in a few days.

But what if you’ve been waiting for that job offer now for a year or more? Maybe you have a relationship that’s not meeting your expectations or needs, or your kids are going through major struggles. We’ve all sent exasperated pleas toward heaven, “When is my luck going to change?” Sometimes we even get a reply from a friend or family member that goes something like “in God’s time.” What does that mean?

It means a delay to answering a prayer is not a denial. Our time frame simply is not anywhere near that of God’s. Look at the story in the Bible about Abraham and Sarah. Childless for many, many years, Sarah prayed for a family, but no smiling bundle of joy would be hers until much later when she was a very old woman. She should have been bouncing grandkids on her knee at that age, but instead, God blessed Sarah and Abraham with a child, Isaac, the beginning of a far-reaching Jewish lineage. This couple trusted in God’s promise, and this is only one of many stories that show we can trust God to provide for our needs and fulfill our heart’s desire.

I volunteer for an agency, Connections to Success (, where I mentor people who have been recently released from prison. In the Pathways program, leaders Jason and Jana show them their lives are transformed one step, one hour, one day at a time. In the weekly gathering for fellowship and a meal on Monday night, they are reminded of this, and it’s amazing to see how they grow to support one another and take those steps toward a better life, and they inspire me to remember the same.

God’s time table, described in 2 Peter 3:8–13, “But do not ignore this one fact, beloved, that with the Lord one day is like a thousand years, and a thousand years are like one day.” A devotional writer for the United Church of Christ recently shared his thought that this verse reminds people who were living in a time of persecution to have a sense of wonder each day. Our lives would be transformed if we could adopt that one principle.

To learn more about living intentionally, check out the book review of “Dancing Solo” by Tim Green, the featured article this month on Tim discusses that it’s God’s desire for us to live in the present, embracing the gift of life He’s given to us.

Finally, the first teleclass in a new series–Custody Chat–will visit the topic “If it Takes Forever, I Can Wait for You.” I’ll share some stories and tips for parents living apart from their children. The FREE teleclass will be Oct. 28, and those interested can register online at


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it is advisable to instal only cordless window treatments in homes where small children are present :

Comment by Kerala Girls :

Thank you for the suggestion, which I hope any readers with small children will notice. There are none in my home, however.

Comment by hopefultransitions

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