Fly with the Phoenix

Making a New You in the New Year

Welcoming a new year can be filled with hope. We leave the past and march toward a shiny new set of 12 months. A new year is one of the most hopeful transitions anyone can make.

This month’s article at discusses how we can learn to successfully make lifestyle changes if we understand it’s not a resolution but rather an evolution, find our motivation, make a plan and keep our momentum for change through personal accountability and a support network waiting to come to our aid when necessary. I invite you to read all of the article and contact me with your questions or comments.

This month’s series will show Fly with the Phoenix readers how to incorporate these principles to improve your personal and professional life. This first post looks at our authentic selves and how to enhance these traits.

It’s you, just improved

Many New Year’s resolutions focus on this statement: I want to be a better person. Whether we want to control anger, find peace and happiness, be a better partner or parent, gossip less or develop our faith, the goal is to improve ourselves so we can have deeper relationships. The trouble is the resolution can be undefined (peace or happiness).  When it does have definition (control anger), there’s no real plan, leaving us to figure it out as we go with this wispy idea in our brain as the only guide to our goal.

But this year, you can remake you, renew or develop relationships so this area of your life can be one of abundance. The first step to take is really look and embrace your authentic self, the current buzz word for “the real you.” Your authentic self is a bringing together of your talents, intellect, experience, wisdom, faith. It’s not defined by what you do for a living, your relationships, where you live or what amount of wealth you have. Authentic self is you at the core. If you haven’t defined that for yourself, please do so; you have to know what your core values and characteristics are so you can build on these during your self-improvement journey.

Furthermore, the authentic self isn’t a random evolution of a person. It’s what you were created to be! It’s God’s life plan for you. Friends, none of us are accidents. Our Creator has a purpose for us, and when we ask God to be a part of our life journey, that purpose is revealed in stages throughout the trip.

And the desire we have to “be better people” is a deep recognition that something is out of whack with our souls. Each of us has a spark of divinity put there by our Creator. When a bell goes off in our heads that tells us something is not balanced in our lives, we are really recognizing a sin that is keeping us from God. If anyone wants to explore this further, please leave a comment at the end of this article.

Once you’ve defined your authentic self, you may see with greater clarity initial steps to take to make personal changes that will enhance the real you. It’s still you, just better!


String together small successes

Self-improvement challenges us–which is why so often we fall short of a goal. It’s tough work! That’s why successful change will come about if you string together small successes. Break down a large goal–such as finding a new relationship–into smaller ones that can be more easily attained. Defining those goals will help you map out a plan. With that, you have the mechanism in place for accountability to yourself, and you can share points of your plan with your inner circle so they can help you stay focused and give you support when you need it.

Look at how mountain climbers tackle a mountain. They don’t shoot up a side like a rabbit! They will slowly climb a section, methodically, carefully. The summit is hidden behind the clouds, but they understand it is reached a step at a time.

Next week: Dumping Old Hang-ups and Habits



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