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Love who you are first

It’s often said we cannot find love if we cannot love ourselves, and there’s a lot of truth in that. Love Celebration starts with remembering the wonderful things about you and honors those qualities by setting aside time for self care. Do an activity that brings happiness. Take a relaxing bath while listening to beautiful music. Indulge in a nap or enjoy a favorite food. Honor the time you have to yourself. 


Love was not created to simply share between romantic partners. While that can be one of the most joyful aspects of being human, love reaches its fullest potential when it is shared with everyone in our life, so this holiday, give of yourself and spread the love!

The unique aspect of this recovery balm is it’s meant to be shared. We are surrounded by loving people: our family and friends. Give your time and attention to family and friends so you can express how important they are in your life. Put your “to do list” aside for the day and visit the people who are important to you, or call to tell them that you love them.

Pets add so much to our lives, so why not give extra time or do something nice for your animal companion? They wait so patiently for us, giving unconditional love and acceptance whenever we are ready, and ask for so little in return.

Take time and make your pet a special treat, take them on a long walk or just snuggle on the sofa as you remember how lucky you are to have a friend like this in your life.

Extend yourself by showing love to an animal who is waiting for its forever family. If you are able, consider adopting a shelter dog or cat. Perhaps (like me) you have a full house and that’s not possible. You might volunteer some of your time at a rescue facility to walk dogs, play with kitties or just pet the animals. The afternoon you spend may help that animal become closer to finding its guardian.

Revitalizing Step Three

After you’ve done the scruffy recovery work and celebrated the love you have in your life, treat yourself to the final balm, Your Sassy Self. This revitalizing regiment will lead to renewal in your life. It works miracles, and that’s not an empty sales pitch!

Similar to the first ingredient to the jar of Love Celebration–loving yourself–Your Sassy Self goes deeper into your essence and spirit. The key ingredients to this balm are forgiveness, spiritual connections and discovery of your gifts.

First, apply forgiveness where it’s needed, whether it would be toward a person who hurt you or to yourself for any shortcomings. The healing balm of Your Sassy Self doesn’t skimp on forgiveness because without this, it’s impossible to move forward with your life.

Forgiveness also allows you to make deeper spiritual connections, When we hold grudges, the ability to seek our Creator is warped. Forgiveness tears down those walls. We were made to be connected to a Higher Power/Creator/God–however you see this deity. When we are not communicating spiritually, there’s a void in our lives that we try to fill with the wrong things, like greed, lust, power, envy–the list goes on. Seeking a greater truth and meaning in our lives is a revitalizing journey that can fulfill like none other.

Remember that we were made with a spark of divinity and a purpose. Our Creator wants us to identify and utilize talents gifted to us, which not only leads to a full life for us, but helps to make our piece of the world better. I love St. Peter’s message that everyone has at least one gift and that we are to use those to serve others. Gifts (talents) are what make you light up; these are your passions. Do you like to share knowledge or administer to the lost? Then teach! Do you feel a strong compassion for the ill? Then treat them! If you are comfortable being a leader, then manage. Apply Your Sassy Self liberally and watch the renewal happen in your life.

Recovery from a broken heart doesn’t happen overnight. There’s no magic pill. But if you are willing to do the recovery work, take the risk to love others and give of yourself, as well as seek deeper truths in a spiritual quest, your heart will not only heal, but it will overflow with grace and love. Who wouldn’t be attracted to that?

Join us for a teleclass at 7 PM on Feb. 24 “When Cupid Misses the Mark” and hear more ideas for healing a broken heart. The first 10 people to register are eligible to receive a chocolate gift certificate. Request call-in instructions below.

Deborah Reinhardt is a writer and certified professional life coach in St. Louis, Mo. She specializes in helping people to accept change as a part of life’s seasons, and a transition simply moves us from a place we’ve outgrown to a new place of abundance.



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