Fly with the Phoenix


Nuts and bolts to build lasting change
January 23, 2011, 11:15 pm
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This month, we’ve looked at resolutions and what makes lasting change. In this final installment, let’s talk briefly about the nuts and bolts–the building material–for making positive changes. Remember, this week (Jan. 26) at 7 PM is the free teleclass, “Keep Your Motor Running,” that will look at how we can build momentum to our new year’s evolutions.

 


Last week, the discussion was about attitudes and how they can block our efforts to get healthy–stop eating too much, drinking or smoking. I have to stress that it’s a good idea to check with a medical doctor before you take steps to control eating, to stop smoking, drinking or taking drugs. You may have an addiction, which is when the negative behaviors have developed to such an extent that stopping them causes severe trauma. You may need medical/psychological help to overcome this.

For less severe cases, your old bad habits can be changed by adopting the steps  discussed earlier: find your motivation, make a plan and find the support to help you on the journey.

Let’s look at the person who would like to stop smoking, once and for all. He’s accepted as truth the medical data that shows his habit is putting him at a great risk of cancer and other serious diseases. The motivation to stop is to possibly save his life and extra money needed to feed the habit.

His plan might be to seek a medically based treatment or an over-the-counter method that will curb the nicotine cravings. All unused packs of cigarettes are tossed in the trash and none can be found at his home. He might stay away from situations that trigger mental desires to smoke, such as smoky bars and nightclubs. To help keep his mind off smoking, he might take up a positive habit, like exercise, so when the cravings kick in, he replaces these with the new positive behavior.

His plan was broken down into small, attainable goals that he could recognize and celebrate when they were reached.

For support, he can create a phone list of friends and family he can call that will talk to him when he’s feeling weak in the knees and want to drive to the convenience store for a pack. Should he slip up, he knows he can forgive himself and get back on track. Stumbling doesn’t mean you’re out of the race.

You see the steps are in place to help him be successful in his fight to stop smoking. This process can be similarly adapted to quit other habits that are harmful to us.

What successes have you enjoyed so far as you work on your new year’s evolution? Share some tips and insight in your comment. Are you stuck on something? You can comment below or if you prefer privacy, just leave a comment such as “I have a question and would like to get in touch with you” and I’ll take it from there!

I hope all of you will this year enjoy a life of joy and abundance. Learn to embrace your life transitions as the gift they truly are! Peace and joy!

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Dead rabbits and divorce
April 15, 2010, 1:12 am
Filed under: Family Transitions | Tags: ,

When I looked out my front door on a recent morning, I saw the body of a dead rabbit lying in the middle of my subdivision’s street. Not a cheerful way to start my day. As anyone who knows me can tell you, I can’t stand seeing any of God’s creatures suffer or dead. It disturbs me.

As the morning ticked by while I readied myself for the office, the poor bunny still laid there, forgotten, unwanted, a nuisance. It was interesting to me that all the macho men on my block just drove past the rabbit in their muscle trucks, SUVs and luxury sedans. Continue reading