Fly with the Phoenix


Dancing the child custody samba
December 28, 2009, 2:27 pm
Filed under: Family Transitions | Tags: , ,

The custody nightmare involving the Brazilian justice system and New Jersey dad David Goldman is over and he has his 9-year-old son, Sean. The details are plastered all over network news, so I’ll spare you from reading them again.

Upon hearing the verdict from the Brazilian Supreme Court justice, however, I couldn’t help but think if this will do anything to further the thousands of cases across our country involving parents being kept from their kids. I must sadly say I doubt it. It’ll probably be a Movie of the Week in a year or two and that’ll be it. Continue reading



Close your veins

I’m reading a good book right now, “A Mother Apart,” by Sarah Hart that gives a voice to mothers who for various reasons left their children or who live apart from them due to custody decisions. Some of the women chose to separate themselves from the kids because of the hurtful behaviors directed at them by the other parent and/or the child(ren). I used to think very poorly of such women, but my mind is being changed, thanks to Sarah’s book. Continue reading



It’s not wrong to drool
December 12, 2009, 3:13 pm
Filed under: Personal Transitions | Tags: , ,

Major drama again with teen daughter. I’ll spare you all the details, but needless to say, I was pretty upset yesterday. However, rather than allow the sadness and frustration to overtake me, I had a major personal breakthrough; I did something nice for myself. Continue reading



Accepting the gift of grief this holiday season
December 9, 2009, 3:55 am
Filed under: Family Transitions, Holiday Transitions, Personal Transitions

This Christmas, my family and I will be at a Salvation Army homeless shelter in St. Louis helping serve the holiday meal to hundreds of men who came in from the cold streets. I wish I could take credit for this idea, but I can’t. Continue reading



Help! It’s the holidays!

My husband, daughter and I traveled to Indianapolis for Thanksgiving weekend and enjoyed the restaurants, cultural attractions and shopping there. When we returned Sunday evening, I turned the car to drive up our street and was greeted with the sight of almost every house glowing in Christmas lights. Then it hit me–BAM!–the holidays are here. Yet, I’m feeling more humdrum than holly-jolly, and I suspect that I’m not alone in that emotion. Continue reading